I Am Not a Snowflake

Hi all!

It snowed last week where I am in Michigan, and it reminded me to dust of the draft of this post. I just gotta say:

I am not a snowflake.

To hear Republicans tell it, America’s enemy #1 is a mewling anthropomorphic snowstorm – whether or not it’s an actual threat depends on their mood.

“Special little snowflakes,” they call us.

Because we insist on our individuality? Because we’re indistinguishable as individuals in groups? Because we’re delicate and common?

Because we’re in increasing danger under a president who doesn’t believe in climate change?

Because we’ll crush you if the conditions are right?

Seriously, nothing makes me want to pull that jab-both-eyes Three Stooges thing quite like thinking about the next smarmy white guy who’s going to push up his glasses and call me a snowflake like he just cured cancer.


This post used to continue with a litany of the things I’ve endured, but I decided that’s really not what this is about. We’ve all been through a lot. That’s pretty much a given for a website aimed at suicide prevention among marginalized people.

I decided what it’s really about is all the things I am despite or because of all the things I’ve been through.

I’m more than two years sober, for one. I got an amazing chest tattoo last month, for another.

I’m strong, and secure, and able to carry some weight in the world for queers and weirdos. I get to wake up 3 times a week knowing I’ve put one small crack in the wall of shit we face every day with this very website.

People like us get told we’re nothing a lot. But you know what? I’m not nothing. I haven’t melted. I’m not delicate. No marginalized person is.

You’ve bent, but you haven’t broken, and you’ve learned so much along the way. Every marginalized person knows more and has lived more because we have to fight for it.

We’re not the ones losing our shit about Netflix changing its review system. ☕😂 (I’m sorry, but can you imagine a more white boy problem!? 😂 😂😂 )

Trying to make us feel small and divided is just one more bullshit tool. You got this. We got this.

Are you a snowflake? How do you feel? Let us know in the comments.


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