On hate

Happy Tuesday!

I haven’t had much time to write lately, but I wanted to leave you today with a thought I’ve been chewing on lately:

My ability to hate myself is intimately tied with my ability to hate others. Whichever one I’m working on at the moment, I find that levels of the other unexpectedly decrease, too. And that, conversely, whichever one is weighing me down can lead into worsening the other.

TLDR: breaking down hate is a multiplicative process that starts with you.

Cool Tool Spotlight: How Big Is Space?

Hello hello and happy Friday!

I wanted to close out the week by putting the spotlight on another of my favorite tools from our Someplace Awesome menu – a guided tour of space called How Big Is Space?

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This cool offering from the BBC lets users scroll a spaceship through the universe, keeping track of your trajectory at warp 1 and pointing out milestones in distance traveled. It’s just the bee’s knees! The space bee’s knees!

We hope you’ll head on over to the homepage and check out this and other cool sites from our Someplace Awesome tab, designed to be a one click shop to somewhere that helps you remember how great things are. If you have any suggestions for links, drop them in the comments, or you can head on over to the Contact/Submit page, where you can submit any content or ideas for future posts on I Won’t Commit.

Hope you have a great day!

Cool Tool Spotlight: Bubole

Hello hello and happy Wednesday!

This week we’re sharing some of the awesome destinations from the “Someplace Awesome” menu, featured on the homepage. Our hope is that every click in this menu takes you somewhere that makes you remember how great the world is, and today’s site is one of my favorites.

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Bubole is a unique Polish site (also available in English) enabling users to create wonderful little monsters (the titular Bubole) and even have a little fun squishing bugs. It might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but Bubole are the T for me, and very relaxing!

We hope you’ll head on over to the homepage and check out the Someplace Awesome menu. And if you have any links you’d like to add, let us know in the comments or head on over to the Contact/Submit page, where you can also submit content or ideas for future posts on I Won’t Commit.

Have a great day!

Cool Tool Spotlight: A Soft Murmur

Happy Monday!

I thought it would be nice to do a series of posts highlighting the cool relaxation and diversion tools included in our “Someplace Awesome” menu (featured on the homepage), designed to be a clickable portal to, well, someplace awesome.

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A Soft Murmur offers a unique sliding-bar customizable ambient noise experience. As I write this, I’m listening to a firm but gentle combo of rain, thunder, fire, and a singing bowl, and it is pretty tight!

We hope you’ll head on over to the homepage and check out A Soft Murmur and the other awesome destinations in the Someplace Awesome menu.

By the by, if you have pages you’d like to suggest for the menu, let us know in the comments or on the Contact/Submit page, where you can also submit other content for possible inclusion in future posts on I Won’t Commit.

Hope you have an amazing Monday!

New music Friday!

Happy happy happy Friday!

This week I’m happy to share with you a playlist of some of the chill electronic music I’ve been making lately. If it strikes your fancy, maybe bookmark it so you can grab a quick meditative moment at work or on the go.

Hope you have an amazing day!


Wednesday dose of comedy

Hello hello and happy Wednesday!

Sorry I’ve missed a couple of posts around these parts, but the good news is I have some new creative efforts coming your way!

Today is a garbage fire, but here’s some new comedy from one of my alter egos, Mitsy Tuttle:

Making weird-ass queer art is one of the things that keeps me alive. What’s keeping you alive this week?

All the love,
Schlomo, founder and editor, I Won’t Commit

Queer women blues singers

Hello hello and happy Wednesday! It’s June, and that means it’s both African-American Music Appreciation Month as well as LGBT Pride Month. Bringing those two things together, we’ll spend Wednesdays this month appreciating music by LGBTQ African Americans.

Let’s start out this week with a celebration of queer women blues singers. Hat tip to Lesbian News for the inspo.

“Mother of the Blues” Ma Rainey on Wikipedia. ‘Prove It on Me Blues’ is famous for its lesbian references.

Eventually becoming the highest-paid black entertainer of her day, Bessie Smith worked with Ma Rainey early in her career.

Gladys Bentley was a brazen gender-bender who performed with drag queens in Harlem of the 30s.

Are you an approval junkie?

Happy Monday! Let’s dive right into the deep stuff haha!

I saw an amazing video this weekend that I just had to share with you. It’s from guru-comedian JP Sears, and it’s all about the ‘lasting’ effects of living for other people’s approval:


I know it’s a guru parody video I saw on Facebook, but honestly I think it changed my life, even a little bit. It gave me the vocabulary I needed to see that I really have been living for other people’s approval in a way I just hadn’t seen before.

I hope it helps, and I hope you have a great start to your week!

Free texts from the Guggenheim!

Hello hello and happy Friday!

To round out the week I thought I’d highlight this archive of free art texts available from the Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum:

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Including the works you can see in the above screen grab, plus works on Klimt and Schiele, the Aztec empire, Kandinsky, Munch, gender performance and so much more! I know I sound like a commercial, but I find this genuinely exciting!

Hope you have a great weekend!