Hello hello and a happy weekend!
Sorry I haven’t been around much of late. I’ve been getting accustomed to a new (much better) schedule because I have gone and got myself a new job.
Which brings me to the topic of today’s post: I want to invite you to just do it.
My old job reached down in my soul and pulled out whatever it could, and I believe it very nearly killed me. But I did it because of the expectation to ‘be a grownup’ and because it came with some nice perks that helped me ignore the life slowly draining out of me.
But it wasn’t worth it. The schedule negatively affected my social life (i.e. canceled it), while the actual job tasked me to get verbally kicked around with a smile at 3 in the morning.
This job threw all my shit out of whack, but I ignored that for a long time because I felt boxed in. I felt like this was the only job I could ever get, and that I needed to stick with it to prove that I could “adult.”
I was like the man in the gray flannel suit, except it was just normal flannel.
It made me a worse friend, boyfriend, cat dad, and all-around person, and it took an immense toll on my psyche.
And that it way more fucking important than a 401k.
Wouldn’t have mattered if I saved for retirement if I wasn’t there to see it. Your life is way more important than your social status, and you can’t keep doing something out of obligation or fear.
It is easier said than done, but you have got to do it. You don’t need a better meditation technique. You don’t need to just suck it up. You cannot hate the thing you spend a third of your life doing and expect to have a happy life.
You will find another job. Another situation will come along. Be smart, and prioritize your health. Wanting a job that doesn’t make you break out in panic sweat every day does not make you a “weak millennial” or whatever age you are!
I wondered for so long if it was even possible to like your job, never thinking about the fact that I had the woefully inadequate sample size of, um, just my job.
And it’s not just jobs. This is not the only thing you have going for you. This is not the only relationship/religion/major/apartment/or overall life path that you could possibly be on. All you have to do is step off.
You are not fated to suffer, you’re just suffering. There’s a difference.
You are not trapped. You always have options. They may not always be perfectly equivalent, but, say taking a pay cut is better than crying all the time.
You can do it. You can!